Hello, I’m Charlotte – The Sleep Fairy 🧚🏼♀️
When I became a mother, I was told that sleep deprivation was just part of the journey. Like many parents, I struggled with sleepless nights and wondered if things would ever improve.
But my husband and I, both big sleepers, knew we had to find a solution—not only for our baby’s health but for our relationship too. We dove into learning about sleep, and soon realized that while some babies sleep more easily, there are many ways we can influence our child’s sleep patterns. With the right tools, restful nights are possible.
Since starting Sleep Fairy, I’ve had the privilege of helping over 100 families worldwide—from Mexico to Switzerland, the UK, France, Germany, and India. I’m incredibly grateful for the support you’ve shown me and my approach.
An extraordinary shift also came when I welcomed my second son, who challenged my methods and taught me new perspectives on baby sleep. Managing the sleep of two children under 2 has given me even more insights to help you along your journey to better sleep.
My passion for baby sleep led me to dive deep into the subject—reading books, reviewing scientific research, consulting with sleep experts, and eventually enrolling at the Institute of Pediatric Sleep and Parenting to earn my official certification. This extensive training has allowed me to create a compassionate, evidence-based approach to helping parents and babies.
I’m passionate about helping parents understand their baby’s sleep needs without relying on outdated methods like “cry it out.” My plans are tailored to your unique family needs, with a focus on everyone’s well-being.
There’s no one-size-fits-all solution—just what works for you. Together, we’ll create a plan that brings peace and joy to your family.
I look forward to meeting you soon!
Abut crying
Children possess a remarkable innate ability to self-regulate and find balance, especially in challenging situations. Through play, laughter, closeness, affection, and yes, crying, they navigate back to equilibrium. When loved ones provide care, acceptance, and support during these times of distress, children can effectively discharge stress, frustration, shock, and even trauma through cries.
I don’t advocate leaving a baby to cry on their own. Just to make it really clear that what I’m advocating here is not the same, or even similar, to the concept that a child needs to be left to cry alone to train them to sleep, to “self-soothe” or to learn to be independent.
Aletha Solter introduces mindful parenting as a method to raise confident, compassionate children resistant to negative influences. Conscious parenting revolves around three pillars:
- Building strong parent-child attachments early on
- Implementing discipline without punishment
- Addressing and healing child trauma and stress
Similar to other experts like Faber, Mazlish, Gordon, Filliozat, and Nelsen, Solter emphasizes empathy in education, attentive listening, acceptance of all emotions, and rejection of punitive measures.
Noteworthy aspects of Solter's approach include promoting babywearing, breastfeeding, cosleeping, natural childbirth, and understanding the significance of crying.
Solter highlights that crying always has a purpose, particularly for babies under stress. She notes that parental reactions triggered by crying often lead to abusive behavior. Understanding the function of tears is vital in preventing abuse incidents.
In conscious parenting, acknowledging and respecting emotions are key. Solter advocates holding crying infants while affirming unconditional love through comforting words. Encouraging emotional expression helps children feel secure regardless of their feelings or actions.
Accompanying your baby or child towards better sleep
Parents & Family at the center
My method places the parents and the children at the centre of everything. My plans are tailored to your needs and respects your parental choices. I am not a fan of the term "sleep coaching or "sleep training" . I normally refer to it as accompanying your baby towards better sleep.
Emotions & Tears
My method does not involve letting your baby cry alone. However, changing a baby’s habit will involve some tears and frustrations. It's ok and healthy for a child to cry. The important concept here is to be here to welcome and accompany your baby’s emotions. This is the start of a trust relationship between you and your child.
Knowledge
My sleeping plans and recommendations are based on the science of sleep. Get ready to learn everything to know about sleep and babies in order to make informed decisions for you and your family.
Love
Love is the key to everything in my method. You are seeking help because you love your child. You are wanting to change things in their best interest and those of your family. Love will be the key to making your child or baby accept changes.
Frequently Asked Questions
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